How to improve conversation skills between husband and wife

 It is said that kissing the Blarney Stone at Blarney Castle in Ireland will give you the gift of eloquence, and given how well the Irish can talk, who are we to question tradition? Many of us wish we had better conversational skills, but going to Blarney Castle might not be for everyone. Anyone can improve their conversational skills with the help of the suggestions below. 1. Talk about your expertise. In conversation our words betray our knowledge. There is a well known saying “put your brain into gear before opening your mouth” and all of us, at some time, have wished we’d done exactly that. It is always much safer to talk about things we are familiar with. Listen and learn if you don't know a lot about a subject, and if you're asked your opinion, start by saying, "This is something I know little about." Then be honest. You will be respected for your honesty because we all have limits. 2. Actively Listen One of the most important conversational skills is active listening. Concentrate on what others say and how they say it. As you listen to the words listen to the variation in the pitch of their voice. Check out how the tone and pitch affect the meaning and how it changes depending on the mood. 3. Watch their Body Language Watch how others communicate is another major conversation skill. Pay attention to other people's body language and gestures instead of just what they say. If all you do is listen to the words you will miss most of what they are saying. 4. Recognize Your Mistakes Admitting errors is one conversational skill that is frequently overlooked. We all make mistakes, and if you realize you’ve made a mistake acknowledge it. If you are familiar with a word, ask if you used it correctly or if you pronounced it correctly. People are willing to accept mistakes that are honest, but if you constantly use long words to show off, they will quickly lose interest. 5. Make Eye Contact with your Audience An essential conversation skill when listening and speaking is to use eye contact to maintain a connection. It doesn’t matter if you have an audience of one or one hundred, maintaining eye contact keeps them involved. Practice eye contact in a mirror and note what makes you uncomfortable as it probably has a similar effect on others. 6. Make an effort to laugh and smile. When done well, it can ease tension and bring back those whose thoughts have drifted. You will retain the attention of the majority of the group or audience and they will feel more comfortable. Don't tell jokes unless you're a stand-up comedian. It is much preferable to share humorous tales based on your own experiences than to laugh out loud at your own tales. Without being embarrassed by your actions, allow others to appreciate them. 7. I, myself, and I alone Admit it, there are times you sing to yourself in the shower or the bath and you think of yourself as the next Frank Sinatra or Eva Cassidy. Keep your thoughts and fantasies in the bathroom! Don't talk about yourself too much in conversation to boost your own ego. Involving others by giving them a chance to speak and asking for their opinion is a conversation skill that is frequently overlooked. Don’t belittle their opinions, give others the respect you like others to give to you. 8. Get Involved in Social Groups. Whether that's a night school drama class, a public speaking class, salsa lessons, or a work- or hobby-related group or society. Get out there and talk to lots of different people and you will pick up all the conversation skills you need. 9. Continuous practice is the key. Think of a few anecdotes and stories and write them out before you go out. If you have a tape recorder record your stories and listen to them again. Consider the questions you would like to ask others and the responses you would provide to those questions. Now if you are asked you will be able to deliver a more relaxed answer. Being confident in the company of others is difficult for many. Few have excellent conversation skill and the majority just about cope. Conversational skills and speaking with confidence, like anything else, require knowledge and experience.